Yeah, you. You’re awesome! Don’t let anyone tell you any different, and don’t for a minute think that you’re not the best thing on the planet right now. Why? Because if you tell yourself that, others will think the same. And what’s wrong with that, you ask? Well, you wouldn’t want them to be misinformed, would you?
Okay, so maybe you don’t need to be as aggressive with your self-appreciation as the above paragraph would make you believe, but at Naughty Dates, we find that the number one limiting factor for people getting together is a lack of self-confidence. We live in a day and age where beautiful people do wonderful things and still think that they’re worthless. We want to change that, and more specifically, we want you to remember that no matter what you’ve done, where you’ve come from or what you want from the future, someone will fall in love with you for those things.
Self-doubt is a pointless emotion: it is entirely destructive and is brought on by no one else but yourself. It’s common, we know: but if enough people start to realize that they are great people capable of achieving the greatest things, we can eradicate it.
Lots of people who are single seem to think that they are entirely to blame, and that no one actually loves them, and that they will never get anywhere when it comes to love.
Those people are silly.
Love and relationships are complicated, and people go through multiple stages of their lives, wanting one thing one day and another thing the next. Never treat your lack of a partner as an issue on your behalf, because as we know, you’re awesome, and they’re the ones missing out, right? Good.
Remind yourself every day that what you’re doing right now is for the best, and if it isn’t, well … all we have to ask is: why the hell are you still doing it?
Love yourself and be proud of who you are. Others might see your confidence as a threat, but that’s only because they have their own insecurities and feel as if taking you down will somehow better them as a person. Block out the negativity, and focus on positivity.
It isn’t rocket science, but honestly: if you lived every day from now until the day you die with nothing but love and self-respect, would you turn around on your death bed and say that it was a life wasted? No, no you would not.
Naughty Dates wants you to love yourself, because people who can appreciate themselves have a much easier time appreciating others. Love is based on being able to accept and embrace that not everyone is the same, but that’s okay, because the world would be boring if they were.
We honestly believe that before anyone seeks romantic relationships of any nature, they should be comfortable in the skin they’re in. If you want to make the most out of life, learn to love yourself above all else, and you’ll soon realize that everything after that is a piece of cake.